What actually missing someone means? Is it like this that the past (or the future that you imagined), which is hiding somewhere inside your brain cells suddenly pops-up and dances infront of your eyes, creates old (presumed) magical patterns and then you crave to be there with the patterns. Or ‘missing’ is just a flash of thought which is held with remembrance. But missing doesn’t always mean ‘craving’. Surely, somewhere it is attached with ”what if…..”.
Few days back, I was feeling like to talk to one my friend with whom I have a friendship of simple ‘Hi’. I wanted to talk to him, wanted to hear a simple hello. And now sitting here, I am just thinking as to how many people have crossed my life and somewhere all of them have left an impression. Some are the ‘best things’ happened to me. Some have made me to cross the road, taken my hand and then hidden somewhere….where? I don’t know ! And the best thing is that for many of them I don’t remember. I do miss all of them.
Remembering these lines from ‘Before Sunset’……………….
“You can never replace anyone because everyone is made up of such beautiful specific details”
I agree with the quote. However crude it sounds relationships come with predefined shelf-lives. We want to agree or not. Each one of the person who comes in our life comes with a purpose ; leaves when the purpose is served. Sometimes they are suppose show us “what is missing in us ” and sometimes they show us ” how not be like them” but they hold the purpose none the less.
Chandni did lovely post on this topic.
http://chandni.wordpress.com/2009/05/27/philosophical-trip/
worth reading !!
missing need not be craving..but it can at times I guess..
I guess to me missing means a lot about wanting to do something badly and me not able to do that thing..I have realized what missing is about a lot lately..well even before…we miss craziest of the things and people..we never know when we got addicted to them or the thing
so go ahead..and just say hi..the next time you see him
the last line is very poignant and very true. we are all individuals. perhaps we may seem the same as anohter but we are still all individual souls with individual and unique gifts. its harder when you miss someone who has become a part of your life, a part of your soul. its llike having a hole in your heart that you can’t fill. still….. they have touched our lives and we haved touched theirs for better or worse, and in that sense we are all imortal. we may miss someone, but we never forget them anymore than they will forget us. Because when we get to the end of our journey we count our blessings as well as our regrets, and there never really are regrets. For how can one regret touching or being a part of anohters life that you changed their path in some way.
Ah…. this was just on my mind….missing someone.
Well the sad part is m missing someone too ( Terribly!).
Missing someone really shows how much of an impact the person has had on our life….that we cant go on with them….. and sometimes makes us get back to that person too,forgetting all the ego n pain,which is a lovely feeling.
May be before sunset movie has left an impression on u too…
[ Thats my all time fav movie ]
I agree with what is said, people do come into our lives for a reason, and the meanings or those encouters are eternal and might even change along the path, with perspective as we glance behind. The reflections of others will define who we are.
But the whole concept of missing must stem from a desire to “hold on” to things, while that is impossible, because everything is constantly moving. Moments are like snapshots of our memories, I guess.
So we flip through our mental photoalbum and we recall the feelings, but they have been changed, they are constantly changing. And that is ok.
Because we still “hold” them, in present time.
“Before sunrise/ Before sunset” are my favourite movies and I have written about them on my blog too.
http://inwardsun.wordpress.com/2008/12/28/before-sunrise-before-sunset
All the best to you dear and enjoy your vacation!