Yesterday I had a long chat with D. D is my PG mate’s love. And now because of community and caste difference, D’s parents are not allowing him to get married to P (my PG mate). And after all the family drama D has finally decided that he would sacrifice love for his parents. Their relationship continued for seven years and finally it is getting over. One thing that is bothering me like hell is the life of the girl who will get married to D. D is dead sure that he would never allow another girl to take P’s space. Till now he has seen seventeen girls and whenever he has gone to see a girl, always the face of P has come in-front of him. He can never ever give his love to another girl and all his love is for P.
My cousin got married day before yesterday. He decided to go for marriage after his love story with another girl fizzled out. His thoughts about another girl is same as D. When he had gone to see the girl (like a perfect arrange marriage) and finally said yes, he felt like he himself has done murder of his love. And no-one can occupy that space, no-one can get his love, no-one can fill his heart because all the things are meant for his lost love.
And finally, V’s story is somewhat similar to this.
I sometimes feel why someone lands into marriage if they are not sure of giving all their love and care to the partner. Why they don’t think about the girl who would land-up in their life? Do they have right to play with another’s life? And what-if after marriage they still are continuing their talk with their lost love and bluffing in-front of the girl who has landed in their life. These relationship are very pious to me.
Marriage is not some boat that you need just to sail through the river of life. You don’t deserve this boat if you can’t take care of the boat in the difficult times, if you can’t give your love like wave kisses the boat and you really don’t deserve it when you yourself is making a hole for boat to sink into the river.
I agree. People has to have clear heads before they decide to tie the knot. Heart breaks happen; people get over them eventually. Time plays a big role there. People who thought they will never get married ; get married and stay happy as heaven. But it does not happen over night for sure.
Heaven is our own creation. So whether it is Love or Marriage, if you decide you are going to have heaven, you will, cause thats how the universe works, you have to want it without any doubts…
P. S. I might give you a different opinion at another time
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Yup…..I agree…..why someone lands into marriage if they are not sure of giving all their love and care to the partner….
nice post
Love never dies. . . . not to worry, D and PG will be together, one sweet day. Just you wait and see! (I hope that D doesn’t make any commitments in the mean time)…
Blessings, Neilina
C.
Just a thought but … isn’t marriage archaic in these days?
It’s basis founded on a need to firm up land ownership. brides bought, or a daughter sold (dowry) etc. Does it not bother anyone that the foundation for this ritual is about – well … a form of slavery?
Is it still required? Doesn’t living with your love for 14 years mean more when it’s NOT bound by some legal document but it’s a choice every single day?
Not to mention how utterly un-feminist. Give up my name? what? I am still who I am and not Mrs (insert man’s name here) … Just a thought …
No… for me – it’s about love and marriage is as outdated as the do-do bird.
I have witnessed several cases where the couple broke up after 7-8 years of relationships..and they thought they would never be able to love anyone else or stay happy. But when they got married to someone else..they confessed later on that they are very happy and never thought that life would be so good.
I believe..we have to be open and accept things in life. It is a matter of time and you have to make an effort as well. And yes..you should not marry someone to get over that break-up…rather once you are over then you should get married. Thats my opinion.